“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” Chinese Proverb
I will not settle for living a mediocre life.
I started to stand for this truth when I had my dark night of the soul/early mid-life crisis at the age of 25. I felt alone, lost, confused, and “dead” inside — I also felt like I was waking up for the first time. Some call this a “spiritual awakening.” Although a very difficult time, (it is called “dark night” for a reason), it was a blessing in disguise to remind me that there really is more to life than “this.”
During this time, I was studying therapeutic massage and movement therapy as well as returning to my dance-like-no-one-is-watching roots. I discovered (remembered) that ease, bliss, ecstasy, grace, and deep restorative relaxation exists; in my body. I started to come back home to myself.
Along my path, I also discovered that I am a highly sensitive person (hyper-aware nervous system), intuitive, and an empath. This kind of physiological and energetic wiring makes being here on Earth quite challenging. How do I reconcile moments of ecstatic bliss with complete overwhelm, sensory overload, and moments (phases) when I turned into the darker, unrecognizable versions of myself?
My reclamation of freedom began when my infant son was 8 months old. My inner voice swam up to the surface from my darker depths and asked, “What do I need?” The reply was, “Go to a hotel.” Not exactly what I was expecting, however, I follow directions from divine guidance. I arranged to get away for one night and in that 24-hour period, which felt like a week’s vacation at the time, I started to glean a glimmer of hope that I could indeed come back to myself. By carving out time just for me, I could slowly turn back towards my inner knowing and trust my impulses to rest, walk, nap, eat, and anything else that felt good. Also known as, self-care. When I returned home, I promptly forgot this ever happened and got swept back up into the noise of life.
Until I remembered again. In the midst of motherhood, one of the darkest times of my life, I started to s-l-o-w-l-y carve out time for restoring my body-mind-emotions-spirit-soul — sometimes at hotels, other times sitting under a tree. My sanity depended on it. As an energetically sensitive being, it became really clear that I either tune into my inner experience and tend to my needs or I will become a shell of a person. I had already decided that I was not going to tolerate mediocrity, so the choice was easy. It was now a matter of being more response-able in creating a lifestyle to support and sustain the best (better) version of myself.
Critical to this process was listening to my body. I had years of education and expertise of how the body works and now needed to apply it more deeply to myself. Little by little, I learned to trust that when I turned away from the impossible expectations and warped mindsets of “sleep when you are dead” and instead towards what I was experiencing in my body and what I needed, I felt better. I discovered that I could stop waiting for permission because it was never going to come. I realized that my body IS the permission. If I feel tired, I rest. If I feel sad, I cry. If I need 3 hours of downtime, even if other people need 10 minutes, I take it. I took back my power to thrive.
I now devote my professional life to empower others to reclaim their power to feel exquisitely comfortable in their own skin by cultivating a positive relationship with their body. The result is experiencing more heaven in your earth (your body) and bridging the divine human experience.
Lisa believes that as we create more love in the body, we create more love in the world.
Lisa serves as a Sustainable Wellbeing Lifestyle and Body Relationship Mentor. She has over 20 years’ experience in the healing arts including a MA in Expressive Therapy, life and wellness coaching, therapeutic massage and bodywork, somatics, energy medicine, and conscious movement & dance.
Lisa has experienced a divine connection all of her life. She is a Unitarian Universalist preacher’s kid, currently studies all kinds of spirituality, and creates her lifestyle to be in “integrity with her soul.” She is the creator of Beloved Your Body™ - a lifestyle program that empowers clients to cultivate a positive relationship with their body for sustainable wellbeing. Lisa believes that the body acts as a bridge to celebrate our divine humanity.
I am a student of wellbeing.
Professionally, I have 20 years experience in the healing arts. My learning experiences inform me and often reinforce what I already "know" deep within. My education includes:
University of New Hampshire: BA, Major in Psychology, Minor in Dance
Lesley University: MA, Expressive Therapy
Cortiva-Boston (formerly Muscular Therapy Institute): CMT, Certified Massage Therapist
Leven Institute for Expressive Movement: Shake Your Soul™ Instructor & Movement Therapist
Life and Wellness Coaching: Coaches Training Institute
Therapeutic Bodywork/Energy Medicine/Holistic Healing